Some days can be mentally and emotionally draining even when we are not engaging in a physical activity. But here’s the thing, people don’t control how you feel. You do. You can control your own feelings by carefully monitoring your thoughts. No one has more power over you than you yourself. And thank God for that.
If you’re like me, you may catch yourself wasting hours by replaying events in your head like an old record player. Or maybe you start to compare yourself to others and end up putting yourself down. We can literally get stuck in our head and be left feeling crummy as a result, if we are not careful to guard our thoughts accordingly.
Why not begin each day with new, uplifting thoughts? When you notice yourself moving towards a state of negativity, lean inward. Connect with your own inner life force and recognize all that is required of you is already present within. No one is excused from challenges in life, but I remind you, we all have endured a lot and are here today carrying on.
Outer experiences can be difficult and may even seem unbearable at times. Take time to reflect, learn and grow as you move forward. Life isn’t a competition but rather a process. Be gentle with yourself. Be patient. And more importantly, learn to soften.
We are much too harsh on ourselves and can unfortunately become our own worst critics. We wouldn’t dare place the same expectations we have with ourself on others. Self compassion is a skill that goes a long way. Learn about it and find opportunities to apply it. Allow it to be the foundation for all that you do. Remember, it doesn’t matter if there is anyone sleeping next to you at night. You awaken each day and end each day with the thoughts of your own mind. Don’t let them run rampant.
Life doesn’t come with instructions. We all work to do our best given our set of circumstances. When we accumulate more information, we can use it to carry us further in our journey. There is no right or wrong. There is simply movement along a continuum that aims to guide us back to a state of love.
As a new day unfolds, do your best to welcome more positive thoughts. Be open to experiences and begin to approach life from a state of love and tenderness. Love is all there ever was and will ever be. Honor it and begin by starting with you.
Dr. Jennifer Picinic
Certified Spiritual Counselor